We all fall off the wagon from time to time. Life gets in the way and all of a sudden you’re waking up and it’s Monday morning (or Sunday morning, for all of you Emirates) and you do NOT feel ready for the week. Not one bit. What’s a girl (or boy) to do!? Everyone has their bare-necessities that they administer to get themselves back on track. Depending on how far off track I’ve strayed- it is either a pretty standard process for me to re-balance or sometimes it takes a few more hours or a couple more conversations with my closest loves to remind me of the simple and important things in life; to get my mind out of it’s chaotic place of control and self-destruction.
It’s definitely frustrating sometimes to think that I still go through this. At times, I have those moments of wondering and hoping if I will ever just always feel at peace. What is also funny is that as soon as I do feel that I am at peace- it seems that something happens to thwart it. I have to continue to remind myself, though, that I am going through a lot of change, in a new place and can’t expect everything to just be in sync, all at times, at the blink of an eye.
I continue to learn that my default is always to be hard on myself and treat myself with much more pressure and hate than love and kindness. Once i’m reminded though, there’s a few things I know I need to re-install into my day, in order re-align.
Once I remember this- all is ok. It’s reminding myself, that becomes an issue from time to time (when I’m in a state of stress ,change or chaos). I guess, that’s what friends are for. Bringing you back, when you don’t know how to help yourself. Thank god for friends (and family).
I was relayed a great piece of advice yesterday from one beautiful love to another, which is:
Focus on how you want to feel, not on how you feel now or the symptoms you are feeling now. They don’t mean anything more than what they are in the moment. Focus on what you feel like at your best and what you like to do to become that.
With this in mind, there are a few things that help me re-balance. Everyone is different so it takes some time to figure out what it is that helps me. It’s based on your values. I feel as though I lose my balance, majority of the time, when these values are lost or compromised. It really is and can be that simple. So, for me, if I can achieve the following 10 Grounding Steps in my day- I can be assured that I will feel good. What’s more: if I can assure to have these 10 Grounding Steps in each day, consecutively, I truly do feel like a rock-star pretty quickly.
1. A Big Glass of Organic Lemon Water (1/2 hot water, 1/2 cold): First thing in the morning. Gets my body moving (literally) and wakes me up. It’s one of my favourite routines to have, no matter where in the world I am. I always have lemons with me.
2. A Big Bowl of Greens (A big delicious salad made from greens like kale, chard, spinach, rocket, sprouts, basil, cilantro & avocado TOPPED with a simple dressing made from organic, fresh and natural ingredients like apple cider vinegar, olive oil, miso, sea salt, cilantro, basil, cayenne and pepper). Yum. Literally, a BIG bowl or hyper-nourishment. Never fails to bring me back to life and leave me feeling energized, healthy and ready for what is coming my way.
3. Outdoors: Whether it’s a walk on the beach, a walk in the trees (which I’m realllly missing here in the desert) or a walk down the street; although I tend to forget it from time to time, walking is my therapy. I love walking. I could walk all day everyday if I could and I do know that I need to get more of it into my life at the present moment. Walking (as opposed to running) is a non-stressful way of giving your body the movement it needs while also giving your mind the break that it needs from the incessant conversation that tends to accompany the stand-still motion.
4. Incense therapy: Life is not the same without lighting a stick of incense. It’s part of my daily routine. There is something about incense that feels so cleansing and wonderful. I’m talking about good quality, traditional incense of course- and make sure you crack a window open too:)
5. Friends & Family: My day is not complete without my friends and family. Friends are there to share moments with and get you out of your head. Friends truly do keep me centred & sane. Family are there to remind me of where I come from. Family is there to love me and for me to love, unconditionally. Friends and family remind me of what is important.
6. Skype/Facetime/Whatsapp/Instagram: Now a days, Skype and it’s affiliates have literally become a part of my daily life. Whether it’s to talk to my family (mum & sam) or a best friend somewhere in the world- Skype keeps me connected. I love having my morning Skype session. Reminds me of the love and support that I have around me, even if it’s not right in front of me. Instagram keeps me connected with the industry and my community around the world- I truly don’t know what I would do without it now a days.
7. Sleep: Sleep is totally essential. I have found that the further along (aka the older) I get, the more I truly do value sleep. I think that I used to feel bad for sleep and used to pride myself on getting less sleep. However, I now know that it is NOT COOL to not get enough sleep. It is simply UNCOOL. Everyone should be getting at least 6 hours of sleep, and, depending on who you are & what your body needs– up to as much as 8-10 hours is also great. I like to get a good 8 hours. Solid. I wake up feeling refreshed, alive and happy.
> Dark Room Night’s Sleep: Along with the sleep aspect, there’s nothing like a nice long, 8-hour, dark room night’s sleep. This means NO light anywhere. Complete and utter darkness. Silence. Warm silence. The thing about sleeping with complete darkness is that it supports your bodies natural ability to secrete melatonin. Without complete darkness, your body is being stimulated by light and therefore will either not produce/secrete melatonin, or at least not enough to achieve a deep and nourishing sleep.
8. Writing: As I write this post, I literally feel my cells bouncing around in utter joy. Writing makes me happy. Writing brings me peace. Writing is love. Do what makes you happy. Do what brings you happiness. Do what you love. Love what you do.
9. Organic Green Juice: My day does not feel complete without a green juice. Whether it is in the morning, as soon as I wake up (ideal) or at my day’s end- green juice is an essential. Literally, green juice is the key to my heart. It has replaced coffee for me, for the most part- and along with a big bowl of greens- it’s one of those non-negotiable essentials of nutrition that I am not willing to compromise. Straight and simple. The more green, the better.
10. Love & Laughter: A good day is when I am appreciating the love coming at me from all directions, even from myself. Even in the most painful and horrible of situations, love is around us. It’s about taking that moment away from the fear and chaos and witnessing love. It’s not always that obvious at first, however, it is there. So, today- I am choosing love.
What’s your grounding essentials? If you haven’t thought about them before (or for a while) or really just don’t know, it’s a good idea to check-in with yourself and see what things you like to do to get you back to equilibrium (mind, body and spirit).